Always Lift Eachother Up

I started blogging yesterday and was very excited about it! I received some really great feedback from everyone who read my adventures and I couldn't seem to sleep last night thinking about what I would write about today... or perhaps it was that my husband was out of town and I had an almost 3 year old who did not want to go to bed and when he finally did, he insisted on sleeping with me. I gave in as I did not want him to wake his almost 1 year old brother, who would then also want to sleep with me and instead of getting kicked in the head from both sides... I opted for just one side!

So each time I found myself crowded to one side of our king sized bed or I had just received a nice blow to my side... I was awake and I was thinking about all of the things I could write about and wondering if anyone would want to read about them. I thought since today is the anniversary of the day I married the most wonderful man, that I would write about him again... or about us and always making sure that you lift your spouse up and never tear them down!

Well, here comes some words of wisdom... don't worry I didn't come up with this all on my own. But a very wise woman, I call her Grandma, told me these words... "always lift your husband up... never tell anyone anything bad about him... pretty soon you will only be complaining about all of the things that bother you, and your friends will only know the bad stuff and see him in that way..."

My grandmother experienced something like this when she was younger and newly married. Some of the women in her neighborhood would get together once a week to talk and play cards and all it ever turned into was a "bash your husband" event. She would never say anything and that made the other women try harder to get her involved in the "bashing". Soon they became jealous of the relationship she had and eventually she stopped getting together with them.

My grandmother always lifted my grandfather up... as a child I thought he was larger than life... he was so full of life and love and laughter... she always pushed him to play games with us and take us fishing and to be our hero. She spent time in the background and I never got to know her and what she was all about until my grandpa passed away and I was older. Now I talk to her every week and I have learned so much about her that I never knew. And the many ways I am like her. I too have been "accused" of never talking bad about my husband and for being mushy or gushy about him. I have been told that someone is jealous of me and the relationship I have with my husband. Not my intention to make someone feel that way at all, but I am certainly not going to change. I am truly in love!

I am in no way saying that my husband or I are perfect. We are just like anyone else... sorry to burst anyone's bubble... everyone has disagreements from time to time... but if that is all you tell anyone about that is all they will know about. So, I have always made sure to never speak ill of my husband... I do have to admit that there really isn't anything worth mentioning to anyone anyway.

So a very good piece of advice from my grandmother... I was already practicing this and didn't even know it. I guess I really didn't have a reason to tear my husband down... I find him to be such a special man and he has never been anything but kind and generous and has given me everything I ever wanted and everything I didn't even know I wanted!

As I write this I see now that I have a lot in common with my grandma (my dad's mom) and I am finding out as I have gotten older that she knows what she is talking about. She is a no nonsense kind of woman and isn't afraid to speak her mind... and she doesn't let anyone walk all over her... I find myself struggling with that in my life however, and I have sometimes been a doormat, but hopefully I can begin to move past that with the help of my wonderful husband and with expressing myself through this blog.

As a final thought for this post... always lift eachother up... there really isn't any reason to tear your best friend and soulmate down. Make your relationship one that people will want to emulate. It isn't difficult to do. If you are not in a relationship keep this in mind for the future... life is so exciting when we can share it with someone who lifts us up and that we can lift up too! Alright I am done being mushy for now! I just can't wait for my husband to get home tonight so we can celebrate our anniversary. I am truly blessed!